C5-Connectedness–the synonym for love


Connectedness–the synonym for love

Life is not a “deserted island”. Somehow the metaphorical “island” may exist in some people’s lives. Subconsciously, we would be leading our lives on such an “island”–though we may not be aware of it–a flaw embedded in our characters that keep us separated from others and that prevent us from coming forth with love.

Some people have been dwelling on this “island” ever since childhood and some may continue after adulthood, because they may have experienced bitterness and extreme difficulties in their early lives–maybe in a broken family, or with a single parent, or with an unloving step-mother or an abusive step-father,  or in extreme poverty during wars  or other similar plights…. It is not easy for them to fully recover and if they do heal it will take a long period of time. But people need love. Love is expressed through connection between people, such as romantic love, friendship, parental love and above all–agape. The latter is God’s love.“For God is love.  Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him.” (1 John 4:16, NIV.)   Without love or being loved healing is impossible.

All people are to die one day. People who want to “die happy” must “live happy”. (This is simple logic.) It is just not possible for any one to live with  piece and joy  without connecting with other people–i.e., without love. I believe definitely God wants all men and women to live a life of abundance and wellness. The Lord said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”  (Genesis 2:18, NIV.)

On the sixth day of Creation week God said:

Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground. (Genesis 1:26) NIV.

And so He did. The Bible says:

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. (Genesis 1:27) NIV. God saw all that he had made and it was very good… (Genesis 1:31)NIV.

We should read very carefully into the story about how God created Adam and how Eve was made from his bone unlike the creation of all other life forms. It is obvious that God wants us to know right from the beginning that Adam’s wife was truly a part of him, so that he would ever treat her as he would himself. God wants us to have a happy marriage — an enjoyable life of sharing together no matter what may come in life–sunshine or rain.

The Pharisees came to Jesus Christ with the tricky question, “Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?” Jesus answered:

Have you not read that at the beginning  the Creator made them male and female, and said, ‘ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’ ? So they are no longer two, but one.  Therefore, what God has joined together, let man not separate.  (Mathew 19:3-6) NIV.

Marriage is divinely intended to unite two persons for eternity. It should be the beginning of a lifelong experience of thinking together, talking together, planning together, hoping together, and praying together. Last but not least husband or wife must accept and love each other unconditionally.The beautiful oneness should pervade every phrase of life from wedding day till journey’s end. The solemn pledge  made at a wedding ceremony must be taken seriously and we’re responsible for the solemnity of the promise in there.

I take thee… for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part.

Connectedness, in real life, is the synonym for love. Vincent Van Gogh, a Dutch painter, whose work was virtually unknown until after his death said, “…the best way to find love of God was to love a friend, a wife, something….”

God’s love given in the first divine marriage of man and woman instilled His love in us and through us to all peoples. To spread His love is what God wants all of us to learn to follow. In this respect Jesus said:

A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. All men will know that you are my disciples if you love one another. (John 13:34, 35, NIV.)

And Jesus also said:

Whoever loves his brother lives in the light, and there is nothing in him to make him stumble. (1 John 2:10, NIV.) [And] Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.  Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.(1 John 4: 7,  8, NIV.)

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.(Colossians 3:12.13, NIV.)

The message from God is as clear as crystal that we must love others as true Christians are born again in love with the indwelt Holy Spirit. If we pray humbly for guidance, the Holy Spirit will lead our way If we do not love we shall not know God. If we do not love, God is not with us.

In our daily life we must not live in the psychological “deserted island”. If we happened to be there occationally or in alienation, we ought to ask God to help us to come forward with love to connect , to communicate with people kindly and to share their feeling of joy or grief, to care for them, to support them, to help and to admonish them. Fellowship among brothers and sisters in Christ is necessary for Christians to grow up in the true faith of Christianity.

There is a saying: “Charity begins at home.” Start with your immediate family and extend your love to all peoples.

 Let’s us pray

 Heavenly Father,

Please listen to our prayers; forgive our sins and let us know you all the more and do according to your will. Please let us understand you and be brave to leave our “deserted island” in whatever states of our lives and to connect with others with love in Jesus Christ.

In the name of Jesus Christ we pray, Amen.

About Francis Loo

I'm a retired landed property professional since 2005 with 57 years working experience, 41 of which related to landed property in Valuation, Property Management, Lease Negotiation etc., in Hong Kong, Toronto and Vancouver. A Guide to Effective Property Management in Hong Kong published in 1991 and translated in 1998 for Chun San University external training courses. Have been contributing biblical articles to Truth Monthly after retirement.
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